Sunday, February 14, 2010

Sleep, Sleep, go away, come again another day...

Every other night I feel like I have lost a marathon.  My husband and I take turns putting our 14 month old son to sleep.  On my husbands nights he goes in there, places our son on his side, tucks him in and leaves the room.  He will often have to go in there a few more times to retuck him...but it really just seems so easy.

My nights are a little different.  If I were to try this, and I have, my son simply rolls over and laughs at me.  I'm not joking, he literally turns, looks at me, and giggles.  It is a definite blow to my ego.  So I rock him.  I am usually fine with this.  I like spending some extra time with him, singing to him, and staring at his little face.  40 minutes later...not so much.  I thought for a while it was getting better, I would rock him and he would either fall asleep or I would rock him till he was drowsy and then walk out.  Now he refuses to sleep for me at all!  I am at a complete loss.  I feel like I have tried everything.  I have read the baby whisperer books, Healthy Sleep Habits, The No Cry Sleep Solution...none have worked.  Many say this is because of my refusal to let him cry it out but I don't agree.  Sure, it may work.  The way I see it, if it's going to completely make me want to cry and can't be natural.  It's at least not natural for me I know.  I would not be able to stand in the other room listening to my son cry for ongoing amounts of times.  I will let him fuss but once he's full out sounding upset I will do whatever it takes besides letting him cry.

Do I think he will ever eventually put himself to sleep?  Definitely.  He does this for my husband so I know he is capable.  My biggest fear is if and when my husband will have to spend a night away.  What the heck am I going to do?!  I guess that will be the true test of my emotions and nerves.  Until then I am just thanking God that my husband is around to save me at night. 

I dream of the day when I can give him his bath, read him his stories, put him in his bed and wish him goodnight! 


  1. I understand Mommy. I have sooo been there done that and it will pass. Thanks so much for stopping by on my SITS day. And what an awesome day it was! I don’t do many giveaways, but I am doing a great one right now. Please stop by!

  2. It's hard. Really, really hard. You definitely shouldn't do Cry it out until you are ready because it takes a lot of stamina. And hand holding with your husband to keep yourself from going in. I swore I wouldn't do it with my Oldest, then she started waking up every 90 minutes or so around 9 months. After about 2 weeks, it was "cry it out" or lose my mind. Literally. And now I have two very good sleepers who go to bed when they're told. It didn't happen without pain, but it did happen. I am a very big supporter of Healthy Sleep Habits, by the way. Love that book.

  3. Thanks for the advice! Yea, I feel like I am not ready yet, but I think if it gets any worse then it is now, or if my husband were to go out of town..I might not have a choice. I feel horrible even thinking about it but I feel like I have tried everything else. I'll keep everyone updated!

  4. This exact thing happened to my son. He would laugh at me as well-probably because he know I would give in and pick him up. This happened mostly after I came back from a 2 week stay at my parents (of COURSE the grandparents are going to go to him whenever he opens his mouth!) needless to say whatever was working beforehand definitely wiped the slate clean when we came home. He would wake up numerous times in the middle of the night wanting to be held. This worked for me within a few days: I would let him cry for ten minutes, go in the room, kiss him goodnight tuck him back in, and leave as quickly as I came in. A few times of doing this without much dialogue and he quickly got the hint;)

  5. Actually I should clarify and say I did this multiple times during each night until he caught on lol

  6. Thanks guys! It's great to know I am not the only one in this situation! Tonight was amazing, my husband tried to show me his ways, we both went in together, he put our son down and he left the room. It was crazy to see how peaceful my son was. Totally different from when I put him down. Let's just say at this point I am open to anything...I just want to give it a little more time to see what plays out!


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